This is just a premature coparison between the Daddy Dom/Little and Master/Slave relationship dynamics explained by a newly initiated and dedicated slave who’s relatively new to the lyfestyle and might be amended later.
Usually, when talking about any relationship, people tend to think of the relationship dynamics that are heteronormative and slightly leaning towards the patriarchal facet of society – where the male is more dominant than the female and usually has the bigger say.
Fortunately, this view has started subsided in recent times. But there are other dynamics which couples indulge in which is no way related to any patriarchial mindset.
The Daddy/Mommy Dom/Little and Master/Mistress/Slave are two different dynamics which many couples adhere to. We’ll be referring to them as D/L and M/S relationships from here onwards.
Also, since this article aims to uphold no stereotypes, I will be using the singular pronoun they/them. Both the dominant and the submissive in any such relationship can belong to either gender.
An M/S relationship is very much like a marriage, except the couple in question adress themselves as Master and Slave. In order to explain a M/S relationship we will have to see it from the perspectives of both the Master and Slave.
The Master/Mistress is the dominant in an M/S relationship and commands authority over their slave. They guide their slaves down the path they deem is right for them. They train them to obey their orders and please them in all things possible.
It is the Masters responsibility to take care of and look after the Slave (conversely it is also the responsiility of the Slave to take care of their Master). Masters decide what the slave does with their bodies.
They get to make decisions in the slaves life for them, like choosing which clothes their Slave wears everyday, when they get to do something pleasurable, or even when they get to orgasm.
Most Slaves themselves are strong individuals themselves. But they crave to serve their Master. They often hand over a large aspect of their lives to their master and trust them completely to guide them forward. The Slave trusts their master to take the right decisions for them.
Slaves respect the superiority of their Master over themselves and serve them as such – they sit on the floor instead of the chair unless commanded otherwise, they serve their master food first and wait for them to start eating before they eat, among many other examples.
Often, Slaves in an MS relationship consider themselves to be the property of their Master, and hence their unwaivering devotion to them.
An M/S relationship is founded on complete mutual trust in both the Master and the Slave involved. The Master controls every part of the slaves life. A Slave has no rights in front of the Master. However, the rigidity with which this lifestyle is followed might vary according to the couple in question, and the terms and conditions as well as the limits to be followed in this relationship is written down beforehand in a document commonly known as a Slave contract.
A D/S relationship can be seen as a milder version of the M/S dynamic. The Daddy/Mommy dom is (as the name states) the dominant in the relationship, and the Baby boy/girl (or the Little) is the submissive.
D/L relationships do not promote incest as the misconception goes. In such a relationship the Dom is referred to as Daddy or Mommy whereas the submissive likes to be referred to as Baby, Babygirl, Babyboy or Little. A Daddy never refers to his sub as daughter or son as this evokes too many parallels to incest and paedophilia (something they detest too, like we do).
Daddy doms tends to be unlike a Master in that they are their Little’s biggest supporter and acts as an anchor to which their Little can hold on to no matter what happens in their life. They know all about Little’s strengths and flaws. They’re the one from whom Little withholds nothing and the one who doesn’t mind if they need to call and talk at 1am.
They like to pamper their Little and give them new experiences, feed them foods they’ve never eaten, make them do activities they’ve never done before etc. this also sometimes translates to sexual adventurism.
They act as a guide and a teacher to their Little. They’re always there to answer their Little’s questions, calm their fears and give them advice from their years of experience.
They tend to be more like Masters in that they are also their Little’s disciplinarian. When the little acts badly, they are put in their place by their Daddy.
This act of disciplining the Little might be incorporated as part of a sadomasochistic activity. As a Dominant, he might create the very tears he will later wipe away.
The Little takes the role of the child-like, sweet and regresses in the age. The age can vary from baby who wears the diapers or a young teenage girl/boy.
The Little is the submissive, they liketo take on the role of silly, bratty child, who likes to cuddle, play with toys, follow the rules, break them, be punished and so on. This also lets them escape their responsible life and relieve their stress.
Sex is not the biggest motivating force in a D/L relationship. But it is an intimate one based on trust and mutual understanding. Although many characteristics show parallels to the M/S way of life, it’s a relationship that brings out the giddy child in one and the friend and guardian angel in the other.
The most important basis for any relationship is trust and acceptance. Both the aforementioned dynamics involve being true to oneself and each other about who they are. Both these relationships are consensual, both the partners are equal, and both help strengthen the bond between and alpha and the beta.
Sources:-
Master's Slave Tanya 